Friends and choosing your words carefully.

I love my friends. There i said it, i really do. I don't have many but those i have mean allot to me. That's why sometimes i try to tread carefully when getting caught up in so called debates that may affect them in some way.
I like a good debate if it is intelligent, thought out & passionate. I don't like debates that become some kind of  bear baiting game. They are often unintelligent, ignorant and just after the joy of seeing others upset.
I am used to it, firstly being a Home Educator, i get used to uneducated people putting their two penn'rth worth in. I have been used to this since at school then going through college where if you don't 'fit in' it becomes a problem, their problem not mine.
I grew up during my college days fun loving but extremely wary of people. In particular female relationships which seemed to have evaded me until recently.
I am lucky that many of my female friends are extremely strong in character, i like that, i admire that. It was not much admired whilst at school or college.
These friends of mine are from all different walks of life, religion & opinion. Some, many have their own businesses or work in great jobs. Some are fabulous mothers/carers/nurturers whatever it is they do in the face of adversity, or just the general shit life throws at you on a seemingly daily basis, they don't let it get them down or at least on the face of it.
I have fought over the years for many things, against many things but i have never wavered in my beliefs. I do sometimes react in a negative way if baited but i try always to go away and cogitate, ruminate, discuss with myself the why's and wherefores of other peoples views. I suppose i pertain to enlightenment not always with success i might add.....perfection is damn hard work so i wont even go down that road.
So i try a higher consciousness.....hehehe..... again not always with any great success but i am conscious, i am aware of my actions and words and the effect that they may have on other people. In the end it depends on whether or not i care about those people in particular as to whether or not i watch my mouth.